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2. Secondly the "pull method "where you draw to yourself the sort of people you are interested in and thirdly
3. The "interaction method" where you interact with people online and create a meaningful relationship with them. The last option by far is the most preferable because actually you have fun, especially if the people with whom you interact are intelligent, emotionally mature and operate in a similar way to you in terms of their life approach. If we have a certain idea of how things should proceed we are bound for difficulty because life is never predictable and at any moment the relationship with someone can become unhinged by a radical difference in attitude and outlook. In this way blogs are brilliant because if you are honest with those who read your blogs and comments you will soon get a very good idea about those with whom you are connected and they will also get a good idea about you. This way is faster as it cuts to the chase and they either resonate with you or not. The essential man or woman realizes after some life experience, that always operating from private goals is fraught with tension, stress, anguish and that if they live this way they will be continuously sitting on a volcano. They have learned that life is far bigger than their private goals and personal dreams. The accidental person will always operate from private goals because he or she lives in a world of uncertainty and believes as if it is certain. This uncertainty of life can and does erupt at any moment, as we all have surely seen with our interactions online and offline and our personal lives also. That is why some people even though successful or rich enough are often the first and the worst when they are confronted with something emotionally or financially dramatic. I am still as challenged by the online world as I was but have taken a step back.Sam Borrett Mentor, Entrepreneur, Facilitator http://www.familyconstellation.com.au Mentoring4Change Jupiter Properties Pty. Ltd. EastWest Property Investments PO Box 241 Brunswick Heads, NSW, 2483, Australia Sam J. Borrett -born in Sydney, trained as a lawyer. Retrained in India as a Rebalancer, Bioenergetics Therapist, Meditation Leader, Facilitator, and Hypnotherapist. http://mentoring4change.com/ for more free material on wide ranging topics. Article Source: [http://EzineArticles.com/?Reflections-of-18-Months-of-Online-Activity&id=4257075] Reflections of 18 Months of Online Activity
Reflections of 18 Months of Online Activity
I must admit when I first decided to put myself out there in the online world, that I did have some certain ideas about how thing should proceed; now I can see they were all wrong. For example, from my experience offline, I thought things could proceed much faster and be translated into more meaningful relationships sooner. I also thought that the "cause and effect," principle would be much more immediate. But more importantly, I did not really know why I was there. Being a relationship focused sort of person I felt that communication would be as easy as it is for me offline; this of course is not the case. It took me a little while to see that everyone including myself all have agendas, conscious or unconscious. The trick is to find out what our agenda is. I found there are basically three ways to navigate the forum circuit- 1. First the "push method "where you literally push your agenda and marketing onto everyone to get something back as quickly as possible.2. Secondly the "pull method "where you draw to yourself the sort of people you are interested in and thirdly
3. The "interaction method" where you interact with people online and create a meaningful relationship with them. The last option by far is the most preferable because actually you have fun, especially if the people with whom you interact are intelligent, emotionally mature and operate in a similar way to you in terms of their life approach. If we have a certain idea of how things should proceed we are bound for difficulty because life is never predictable and at any moment the relationship with someone can become unhinged by a radical difference in attitude and outlook. In this way blogs are brilliant because if you are honest with those who read your blogs and comments you will soon get a very good idea about those with whom you are connected and they will also get a good idea about you. This way is faster as it cuts to the chase and they either resonate with you or not. The essential man or woman realizes after some life experience, that always operating from private goals is fraught with tension, stress, anguish and that if they live this way they will be continuously sitting on a volcano. They have learned that life is far bigger than their private goals and personal dreams. The accidental person will always operate from private goals because he or she lives in a world of uncertainty and believes as if it is certain. This uncertainty of life can and does erupt at any moment, as we all have surely seen with our interactions online and offline and our personal lives also. That is why some people even though successful or rich enough are often the first and the worst when they are confronted with something emotionally or financially dramatic. I am still as challenged by the online world as I was but have taken a step back.Sam Borrett Mentor, Entrepreneur, Facilitator http://www.familyconstellation.com.au Mentoring4Change Jupiter Properties Pty. Ltd. EastWest Property Investments PO Box 241 Brunswick Heads, NSW, 2483, Australia Sam J. Borrett -born in Sydney, trained as a lawyer. Retrained in India as a Rebalancer, Bioenergetics Therapist, Meditation Leader, Facilitator, and Hypnotherapist. http://mentoring4change.com/ for more free material on wide ranging topics. Article Source: [http://EzineArticles.com/?Reflections-of-18-Months-of-Online-Activity&id=4257075] Reflections of 18 Months of Online Activity
